It's all about me!

I just want to share something that I have been thinking about recently. This picture is a perfect illustration...

Yes, the world does not evolve around you or me! When we fail to understand this, we are a pain! We expect, demand and cry out for everything and don't want to give anything back!

We start to fell unjustified, like we are owed something by everybody, oh what victims! (not).

Instead of being offended by people who do not act the way you want them to, try giving, try doing to others what you would like done to yourself. 

I put this into practice some time ago; first it was with talking. I hated the thought of someone talking about me behind my back, so I made the decision not to talk behind people's backs either. Also, when I needed someone to pray for me or just see how I was doing, I started checking up on my friends and wanting to help in anyway I could, even if it was a small email, a text, a quick call or a prayer.

I am also blessed to know people like this. They show care and believe me, it stands out a million miles!

When we are all about me, me, me, we become selfish and stop giving and because we stop giving we stop receiving. 

To be honest, even this blog is something just for me to give. I really do not like using computers and even get shy of people reading my posts (Yes, my english is bad, that's why we should all listen at school!!).

 Right now I should be getting some sleep, but I know it is not about me.

The trend is to think!

For a while now I have seen countless women wearing different coloured nail polish on a few or at least one finger, often their 'wedding ring finger'. (Do we say 'polish' in UK, or is this my Lucian coming out??...I honestly don't know..sorry :\...)

Anyway back to the writing....So, this trend is also known as 'I'm free' and 'stand out' or something, amongst other names. It is basically a sign to let people know they are 'available' (even though married celebs are also following this trend). 

If we do not question why we do things and simply follow anything (without understanding it), then we can easily be lead down the wrong road without even realising. Then, before we know it we are so far down that road, we are totally lost becoming a carbon copy rather than the different woman God called us to be.
Nothing is ever black and white nowadays, there is always something behind something...we just have to be wise and use our brains and find out what it is.

Don't fall for everything! Think and do what is right, following what is good...

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. (Phil: 4:8).

Listen up Mama!

Recently I have been looking at what more I can do to win souls. I have been so eager to share God with people, but I looked at myself and though 'but what can I do?'.

Then I realised that many people may also have this same thought. See, we all have different lives, some work most hours of the day, some travel a lot, some have children and the list goes on, we are all different!

So in my desperation, I googled 'ways a Mum could evangelise' etc and it came back with practically nothing...I was annoyed about this as I was hoping it would come up with some great results for me to practise. Then I thought, I will have to come up with my own tips and ideas....so I did! (I hope it helps the Mums out there).
The truth is, unless you are a Mum, it is difficult to really understand the role and responsibilities that come with it. It is a tough job. Likewise, I have no idea what it is like to run my own company, right? So, as I know what it is to be a Mother,  I came up with these tips and I hope it helps Mummy's!

Love you all :) xx

1. LEAFLETS IN CHANGING BAG- This is something very simple. No Mum leaves home without a big bag filled with nappies, spare clothes or food and drinks for the little one. So why not also put some small leaflets from the Church inside?

2. PARK- I have noticed that having a child is a big key to socialising with people we do not know and would usually not speak to. Mums like to talk, ask questions, 'how much did he/she weigh? Was the birth natural or C-Section? Does he/she sleep well?.......'and the list goes on! Before you know it, you are speaking to someone, so why not mention your Church and tell her about the great things that have happened to you and the people that have used their faith? (Please note, I advise to only speak to other Mum's in the Park, and make sure you keep an eye on the kids!!)

3. PLAY SCHOOL- Just like number two, you can pick up a conversation with someone in no time and start bonding with other Mums whilst waiting for your little one at the School gates! Instead of sitting, waiting for them, get talking!

4. EMAILS/FACEBOOK/TWITTER- This is a great one, and one I love to do! You can reach soooo many people like this, and best of all, you do not have to leave your home at all and can do it any time, day or night! You can share with them blogs from the Church and also messages and information about up and coming events!

5. A BLOG- Share your life and experience with Jesus with others!

6. DAILY ERRANDS- How many times have you heard someone blurt out their problems whilst standing in a bank, store or Post Office? 'I am in pain, my husband left me, my family member is on hospital' and so on? Use your daily errands (linked with number one) and give this person an opportunity for the solution to their problems!

7. PAYING BILLS/SENDING LETTERS- Why not add a Church Magazine or a small leaflet inviting someone to the Church when sending things in the post?

8. ONE MUMS DAY- Take turns to care for each others children. If you have friends that are in the same faith as you and wish to evangelise on the streets, this is a great one! Each week a different friend can care for the children whilst the other mums hit the streets! Next week, the Mum who stayed behind will go out to evangelise and another friends will stay! What a friendship!


P.s- If you can think of more, please let me know!

God is like this glass

In this video I came across, I saw that God is like this glass. Sometimes we do not see the dangers around us, but he is there protecting us from serious problems.

Now, imagine if this glass was not there? Yes, I don't want to either, but thats the reality of many peoples lives.

Lets save souls, Jesus wansts to be that glass :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fbahS7VSFs

Never meet your hero!

'Never meet your hero'. This is a saying according to the world.

It is known that sometimes we can build high expectations of someone because of what we have heard, read or seen about them. The singer with the full, long hair (but there extensions), the smiley comedian (but he's depressed), the band that are the best of friends (but they break up next month) etc etc.

I recently saw a TV interview with an actress. She was in a soap when I was in my teens and I used to arrive home from school and watch this show. I found out from this interview that whilst she was filming all these great, entertaining episodes for the last series, that she was battling a serious alcohol addiction. I could not believe it!

I am not saying that because people are in the 'spotlight' that they need to be perfect (and for the record I have nothing against hair extensions). But the problem is we expect so much from people and when we find out the truth about them, we are more often than not disappointed.

I have come to know and believe that there is only one Hero that will never disappoint us. He is a loving Gentlemen and at the same time a Mighty Warrior.

Personally, meeting my Hero was the best thing that happened to me.

You have also given me the shield of Your salvation; Your right hand has held me up, Your gentleness has made me great. (Psalm 18:35)

Can you truly depend on YOUR hero?

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Unicorns

I personally do not like unicorns at all, they are creepy.

Some people think they are beautiful, but I disagree. Anyway, that's not important, because no matter what you or I think about them.. unicorns are not real.

Have you ever seen a unicorn? No, so we all know they are not real, they don't exist. Subject over.

In the same way FAITH is not real, until it is seen (in action). No matter what you say, faith is only real in a persons life when its acted upon, until then, it is just theory. Subject over.


But someone will say, “You have faith, and I have works. ” Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works. (James 2:18)

Don't move!

Life is hard, I don't need to tell you, you know.
But this is for those who are tired of giving up, going back to square one, listening to the doubts, allowing the problems to over ride them and the like...

Those who trust in the Lord Are like Mount Zion, Which cannot be moved, but abides forever. As the mountains surround Jerusalem, So the Lord surrounds His people From this time forth and forever.
(Psalm 125: 1-2)

Think with me, this verse says 'cannot' be moved. This does not mean,' unlikely to move,' 'very hard to move', 'eventually will move' etc. No, they literally CANNOT be moved.

Even in the hardest and most scariest situations, faith and trust is there.

P.s I am not really an animal lover (at all) but I do have soft spot for this cat now :)

I found me....

WHAT???? No offense, but I really dislike this saying, it is so strange and honestly I feel awkward when people say this.

'I found me'...Hellllooo, you have always been there, next to yourself ...lol (Sorry).
I do not mean to sound rude, but what a cliche.

This is what people say when they are lost, looking for something (God). They try lots of things to fill the gap (fame, drugs, parties, over indulging in studies/careers, inappropriate relationships etc) and in the end come back with nothing.....still. So in their defence of still not having peace and satisfaction in life, they say, 'I found me', because that is all they have.

There was a young lady who said a while ago 'I found myself'. Then, some time later, she said these words......I'm an artist. I paint on a smile. I'm an actress. I make it look like i'm happy. I'm a liar. I say I'm over you.


Is this someone who found themselves?
When we know God, we know who we are and this makes us secure and as much as the world tries, we do not need to try to be anything else.

Did you doubt too?

How do I look?

As Christians, our appearance is very important as we represent Jesus. I believe we are obligated to look our best as His Witness. However, we can never forget that the most important part of being a Christian is a clean, well kept life. This is what differentiates us from the girls of the World. We are conscience of our appearance, but we are not ruled by it, we do not flaunt it. Natural beauty is there because it comes from within.

How many times do we ask people, 'How do I look?'...but we must also ask God, 'How do I look...INSIDE?'. We can have the most beautiful clothes, hair and jewellery, but if our inside is ugly with grudges, jealousy, and gossip, how can we really be beautiful?

So girls, keep on looking your best and most of all seek to be beautiful inside, flowing with peace, joy, kindness etc....for sure these virtues will overflow from you and people will see you are beautiful inside out!

UCKG St Lucia

Thank God, I want to share some great new with all of you!

Today is the grand opening of our Church, UCKG in St.Lucia! It will be open everyday, doing what we always do, helping people find God and a way out of their suffering.

The address is 19 Chisel Street, Castries, St Lucia. If you know anyone who lives in St.Lucia, please let them know!

My family are St Lucian, (actually, my Dad is actually from Castries itself) and I have had the privilege to go there. I last visited in 2008. It is a blessing to know family and friends will be able to find an open door at the UCKG.

Keep St Lucia UCKG in your prayers and let us thank God for one more victory!  Below is a picture of the Island and the people in Castries. Colourful aren't we?!

Hear thee, hear thee?

We often take our hearing for granted.

We even get annoyed when we hear something unpleasant.  Here is a list of some of the things I don't like to hear:

1. Loud voices

2. Loud music/TV'S/films

3. Teenagers on the top of a bus (arrrrrgggghhh!)

4. Loud or buzzing machines/gadgets

5. Drilling

6. Arguments

7. Gossip

Did you know that the last sense to go when a person is dying is their hearing? This is very interesting because if you think about it, we seem to be so 'in tune' with our other senses! We use our sight, touch, taste and smell every day. We never eat something we do not enjoy, why? because our sense of taste tells us that we don't like that type of food! We look out the window to see the weather, and our sight shows us to bring out that brolly again! (Yes, good old Britain).

Don't think that because you can physically hear, that you are listening either. We hear many things throughout the day, but are we listening?

How often has your parents told you to do something, and you don't do it?

How often has a friend needed someone to talk to, but you were too busy with yourself, or only pretended to listen to her?

Throughout the Word of God, there is the instruction for us to listen, to hear what God is saying to us. The reality is however, we are just not that good at listening.

I don't know how many times people have told me, do this, don't do that (even God Himself), but I ended up doing the opposite. Why? because I was not listening. I only 'heard'.

If you want, you can make a list of what noises you don't like to hear. Afterwards, make another list of the times you heard good advice, whether from your family, the Pastor, or God Himself.  Can you guess which list will be longer?....uh oh.

You may come to see that you do not hear as well as you think.

The Truth; Part 2

Tip 2: Value it!

If you have the opportunity to have a loved one that does not mind to show you the way when you sometimes go off track, value it! Stay close to this person, as you have a true friend!


It is very boring and strange to only receive praise. Actually, its completely unrealistic.
If we only want to get praise and positive recognition then for sure we wont progress. We will develop this false sense of 'I am good, I am ok' and this is dangerous because the need to change will be less important to us.
This is also a problem as once all the cowards and false friends are gone,  there will be someone to knock you off that pedestal. Maybe you wont value their words. You will feel picked on, misunderstood, hurt etc.

As I said in part one, I am not suggesting by no means that you should listen to 'put downs' and negative criticism from negative people. I am talking about those who love you so much, they want to help you, and they have the decency to tell you to your face.


Thank God I have friends and family like this. I will be honest, its like medicine, it tastes horrible, but it makes us better!

I often take this medicine, and I know its good for me. I am learning and doing my best to put it all into practice, its not easy but I am not looking for praise, only results.

When is your next dose? :)

The truth......

Why do we find it so hard to tell the truth about what we think, what we like or don't, our opinions etc? Why is it hard to be 'the real me', the real you?

Well, this usually happens when a person is afraid to be criticised. No, please don't get me wrong. I am not talking about the criticism that  people use just to make themselves feel better. You know those ones who NEVER have anything good to say noway? and I am NOT talking about self Criticism either! This has NO benefit for you or others around you!

What I actually mean is when a person impedes themselves from being truthful through fear of being criticised or looking bad. Its when we try to hide our faults or the faults of others to be on 'safe ground'.
But this does not work!

We can learn from our mistakes, but only when they are shown. If we hide our frailties, how will we ever change? Like I wrote in my first blog post, we cannot be over sensitive when we are told something we perhaps would rather not hear.
When our mistakes are revealed to us, it is a beautiful stepping stone for us to jump on to continue our everlasting journey of change!

I remember when a family member of mine would always expose my mistakes. Not in a mean way, but in a way for me to see them, and change. However, I always felt 'picked on' (theres that sensitivity again!). Until one day, God showed me that this person was trying to help me. I no longer felt 'picked on', but I felt loved by that person because they cared enough to tell me the truth.

I will be sharing with you over the next few weeks tips on how to accept the truth gracefully and how to tell someone the truth gracefully. I hope it helps you and your friendships and relationships!


Tip 1:  If your first reaction is to lash back at the person giving the criticism, or to become defensive, take a minute before reacting at all. Take a deep breath, and give it a little thought.
Often, our first reactions are never the best ones, especially if we have just heard something painful to our dear egos.  So take time to understand what the person is saying. 
You may find it to be true after all!

I wanna be like Mike! Really?

Michael Jordan.

Perhaps he would be the first  name that would come to many of you if asked to name a famous baller.

Well, if you didn't know, he was not always a winner! He failed many times in his life. However he became the greatest basket ball player because he never accepted not to be the best!

OK, its only basketball. Maybe you do not even like basketball....(What??!) But this is the spirit we should have!

Revolt is a very sincere action that leads a person from zero to great.
Do you think it was easy for Michael Jordan to fail all those times? To lose all those game for his team and fans and admit it?

Many times we are not sincere with ourselves. We want everything to be OK so much, that we do not like to admit that maybe somewhere in our own lives we are failing.
Failing as a student, failing as a mother, failing in our careers or families,  even in our spiritual lives. This in denial is not good for us!

When Michael Jordan was failing, he practiced like no other, he was intelligent and knew he would only get better when he took action. He did not blame his upbringing, his past, his team for the situation he was in. He looked at himself sincerely and saw he just was not good enough (ouch).
A person can only take actions to change their life when they look around and honestly see a need to change, a need to revolt.

 Even Gideon felt like a failure,  I am sure. Until one day, in that wine press, he was like "What on earth am I doing here, hiding?!"

You see the problem has never been about failing, only accepting to fail!

Check out this video link below and look at the sincerity of Michael.
  
http://youtu.be/ID18m08YxqE

Be sincere, you need to revolt, and so do I!

Why eggs?

Hi!

Well this is my first post. I am NOT a writer, so by the second paragraph maybe you will find something wrong or grammatically incorrect . Well, sorry in advance, I will do my best.

So, my first post and the design of my blog...eggs?

Yes, eggs. Not because they are my favourite food, no! (I do like them though).

I was someone always very sensitive, OVER sensitive. So, like an egg, I would find myself always breaking at the smallest knock. Thank God I am changing!
So the eggs are a reminder to you and me, that we have to be tough in life. When problems, rebukes and challenges come, we have to deal with them in an intelligent way, always using our faith, and never our emotions.

Even writing this blog, these thoughts came, but thats why I am doing it, because I do not accept to be a person who feels inferior or small ever again!

I refuse to crack!

P.s Actually, my first blog design was of beautiful flowers and lovely pinks, but I decided to be true to myself (and the name of my blog) and put simple eggs....... this is the real me.

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